The great divide continues to plague teens


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If there is one thing our generation seems to know more about than viral Tik Tok references and COVID-19 health protocols, it is the never-ending battle of trying to get through to adults. Parents in particular can be a tough crowd. No matter what, it seems like a majority of us are unable to efficiently communicate with them.
Our concerns are brushed off as teen angst, asking for understanding considered back talk and any attempts to address the issue winds up being because of that ‘stupid phone’. So how can today’s youth say their piece without interruption and immediate backlash?
If I am being completely honest, I do not have a straight answer because I myself am struggling to find one. There are many differences between when our parents were raised and the society we are growing up in. After a little research however, here are some tips that may come in handy during miscommunication with parents.
First off, locating a sympathetic or less judgmental adult to go to for advice may help. Having an older confidant can give you some insight as to how parents might respond, and be a source of support when things go south.
Whether it is a relative or trusted teacher, having some form of support during any argument really helps. If nerves start to take control, going over your feelings with an adult before addressing your parents might help. Take the time to talk about the issue, possible ways to solve it, and practice how you would bring up the subject without causing confrontation.
Second, planning ahead. In moments of frustration people tend to say the first thing that comes to mind, which might not always make sense and only add to the communication barrier. Instead, making a small list of what you want to talk about or problems you would like to address could save a lot of angry rambling.
Practicing how to start the conversation can go a long way, along with just knowing what you would like to say in general.
Third, include how you feel into the conversation. According to and their article on teens talking with parents, this method could not hurt to try.
“Don’t let those feelings stop you from talking. Instead, let your feelings be part of the conversation,” the article states.
Fourth, ask for help. Whether it be from a family member who can advocate for you, or in some more serious cases a therapist, having somebody else there can assist in making sure everybody involved has a voice.
Lastly, just try your best. Taking on the stress of communicating with your parents can be daunting. In the end all that a kid can do is try their best. Not all attempts will be successful and that is to be expected. Despite your best efforts, it still might not be enough.
At least you can say that you tried. Despite this generational divide, there are many others facing the same challenges and who have found solutions.